We all want our kids to be popular—or do we? The perks of a membership to the In Crowd certainly exist, but there are definite pitfalls to popularity.

I recently had psychologist and MomLogic contributor Wendy Walsh, Ph. D. on my show to discuss the negative effects of being part of the “cool” clique.

“A recent study that followed a group of eighth graders for a year found that the most popular ones acted out the group norms more aggressively and led the way in to some forms of delinquency and some drug use,” Walsh says. The healthiest place for you child on the popularity scale? Probably somewhere in the middle, Walsh says.

See my complete interview with Dr. Walsh below for tips on how to help your teen handle peer problems.

When you think about teens and substance abuse, you probably imagine scary scenarios involving alcohol or illegal drugs. I doubt the bathroom cabinet even flashes through your mind. But according to a recent survey of teens by the Partnership for a Drug-Free America, one in ten admit to using cough medicine to get high and 28 percent say they know someone who’s tried it.